Parents and guardians have an important role to play in helping their wards make responsible decisions as they grow. Although children gradually become more independent and capable of making choices for themselves, they still need the guidance of parents, guardians, teachers and other trusted mentors with good character and sound judgment.
Schools often provide opportunities for students to join different clubs, societies and groups. These activities can help children develop their talents, build confidence, learn teamwork and discover new interests. However, parents should take an active interest in the groups their wards want to join.
Rather than leaving children to make such decisions without guidance, parents should encourage them to discuss their choices at home. Parents should understand the purpose of the club, the activities involved, who supervises it and how participation may affect the child's studies, values and overall wellbeing.
Not every group or association that appears attractive to a young person is necessarily suitable for them. Children can sometimes be influenced by their peers, social pressure or the desire to belong. Without proper guidance, they may join groups whose activities, relationships or expectations could expose them to unhealthy influences.
Parents should therefore teach their wards that seeking approval is not a sign that they are incapable of making decisions. Rather, it is part of learning how to make informed and responsible choices. As children mature, they should gradually develop independence while still understanding when it is necessary to seek the counsel of a trusted adult.
A security-conscious parent should know the interests and activities of their wards and provide appropriate orientation. Parents can ask questions about the clubs their children are interested in, attend relevant meetings where appropriate and establish communication with teachers or school authorities when necessary.
This approach is not about denying children the opportunity to participate in school activities. It is about ensuring that such participation takes place in a safe, healthy and supportive environment.
Parents should also build trust with their wards rather than relying only on strict instructions. A child who understands the reason behind parental guidance is more likely to seek advice when faced with difficult choices, peer pressure or an unfamiliar situation.
When children are encouraged to communicate openly with their parents, it becomes easier to identify unhealthy influences, unsuitable groups or situations that may place them at risk.
Parents should remember that guidance is most effective when it begins before a problem occurs. A simple conversation about a school club today could prevent a wrong decision from becoming a serious problem tomorrow.
“Before your ward joins any group, encourage consultation, because informed guidance can prevent a wrong choice from becoming a lasting problem.”
Just be good. Reflect. Stay alert.
Author
Moruf Yusuf (Ojogbon)
ANIPR, MISN, FCAI, FIIM, MSPSP
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Monday, 7th September, 2026
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