In a viral tweet, @jon_d_doe urges single women to give younger men a chance, claiming many older bachelors lack commitment, emotional capacity, and time for relationships.
A Nigerian relationship commentator, known on X (formerly Twitter) as @jon_d_doe, has ignited widespread debate on social media after advising single women between the ages of 25 and 30 to reconsider dating men above 35. His post, which has garnered thousands of engagements, argues that many older single men are “not serious,” “emotionally unavailable,” and “buried in their careers.”
According to him, women often misinterpret the behavior of younger men typically between ages 28 and 34 as immaturity, when in reality, they simply lack the life experience of older men whose voices dominate social media.
“Most older single men have lost touch with commitment” — Commentator
In his lengthy thread, @jon_d_doe claimed that men past 35 tend to struggle with maintaining committed relationships due to long years of prioritizing career growth over emotional development.
“These men have buried themselves in their jobs, lost touch of what it means to be in a committed relationship, and cannot give you the attention that you desire,” he wrote.
He argued that most men who are prepared for marriage typically commit before age 35, building a family early so they can “grow and mature” within the relationship.
Social media influence “distorts expectations”
Reflecting on his personal experience, the commentator—now in his 40s—said younger women often expect men in their late 20s to think like older, more experienced men they encounter online. He noted that this creates unrealistic standards.
“You read from men like me and subconsciously think younger men should think like us. You’re wrong,” he added, saying his own younger years were far less refined.
Career stability and emotional gaps
He further warned that men above 35 who have achieved financial stability may look down on younger women who are “just starting life,” while those still single at that age may lack the patience or emotional intelligence needed for genuine commitment.
According to him, women stand a better chance building long-term stability with younger men who are still developing, rather than waiting for “perfectly polished” older men.
“Younger men will grow with you”
He encouraged women to embrace the imperfections of younger partners, noting that maturity often develops within marriage and through shared experiences.
“Ignore their obvious imperfections, and watch them grow into maturity and into men you would be proud of,” he advised.
Mixed reactions trail the viral thread
The tweet has drawn a wave of conflicting reactions, with some applauding the honesty and fatherly tone, while others dismiss the advice as a stereotype that unfairly labels older bachelors as “red flags.”
Despite the controversy, @jon_d_doe maintains that his message comes from “sincerity of purpose,” urging women to avoid future regrets by lowering unrealistic expectations and giving younger potential partners a chance.
Post a Comment